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#9

nostalgia June 21, 2026 at 8:23:14 AM

Hi, thanks for quoting Bernstein's book! I wrote down some thoughts about it while I'm reading. Here's the link if you are interested! https://nostalgia.bearblog.dev/emotional-labor-new/

Replied on: June 21, 2026 at 6:11:31 PM

Surprised to hear that someone actually read something I mentioned. Having to provide your parents emotional support when you're a kid yourself is something I relate to, and it sucks terribly. Re: How to Deal with Emotionally Explosive People, I don't think you have to do the in-depth steps in the later chapters if you don't genuinely want to. If it seems like too much work, Chapter 1 is a good enough for a breakdown on what to do if you need to defuse something in a public space, for instance. The stuff in Chapter 1 is really meant to be done in like 15 minutes, because letting it go on for too long is also counterproductive. It's mostly about disrupting the rhythm of their imagined outcome and engaging the person's thinking brain. While being put into that situation sucks at all, I think the primary benefit is that you save yourself from extra time dealing with this person (if you can't leave) and you help the other bystanders who don't know what to do. The additional chapters, I think, are more for if you wanted to engage in long-term help for a loved one. This also has to be voluntary. If you're feeling tired about it, that's a good sign not to offer too much.

#8

thing June 17, 2026 at 8:36:09 AM

love your thoughtful writing and I haven't even looked at the yuri reccs which is like a hatecrime but a lot of your texts resonate with me a lot. I wish you the best of luck and thanks again. :love: :cheers:

Replied on: June 17, 2026 at 10:17:04 PM

Thank you!! I'm always surprised and happy to hear when someone likes my writing. Best of luck to you, too!

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MJWD May 22, 2026 at 2:45:45 PM

Nothing fancy, just wanted to say I adore your Yuri recommendations and how you write your thoughts about them. I'm looking forward to checking out all the other things you write about

Replied on: May 22, 2026 at 5:53:25 PM

Thank you! I'm glad the Yuri recs are useful for someone out there.

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tc February 2, 2026 at 1:45:45 AM

you're doing good. as a human, i mean. life isnt supposed to be black and white, or even linear. who cares what goal you did or didnt hit at age 30? youre young and youre trying. there is no "winning" so the goals mean nothing. don't live for anyone else but yourself. any feeling you get of inadequacy is brainwashing. your blog is nice, and relatable. happy 2026.

Replied on: February 4, 2026 at 8:58:17 AM

hi there, thanks for this message. didn't realize anyone was still reading my blog. I'll try to keep your words in mind.

#5

Orfeo July 19, 2025 at 4:28:27 PM

Hello! I just read the blog about the soup incident, and I found your comment about job interviews interesting – I couldn't agree more! I'm still studying, but in a few months, I'll have my first-ever interview, and as an intern, no less. I wish they'd just read my resume and say yes, haha! I'll be sure to read more of your blogs. Have a great day! :cheers:

Replied on: August 12, 2025 at 12:43:01 AM

Hi! I think they really made getting jobs unnecessarily difficult an outright inaccessible to a lot of people. I hope everything goes well for you!!

#4

daniel July 19, 2025 at 2:13:46 PM

Hey! Just wanted to pop in and say I enjoy your blog and I respect your ability to write about difficult personal things. That's something I've been trying to get less afraid of. Also I love your blog's theme and this guestbook theme!

Replied on: August 12, 2025 at 12:42:21 AM

Hello! Sorry for the late reply on this, my email notifs were going to spam for some reason. Thank you for your kind words! I'm glad people enjoy my blue bias.

#3

toska January 24, 2025 at 12:17:39 PM

Hi, I just read your post on surviving the book club and enjoyed it. Looking forward to more posts, and it's awesome that you know Japanese so well!

Replied on: January 25, 2025 at 11:59:39 PM

Hi, thank you! I don't know if I would say I know Japanese "well", but more than the average person at any rate. Thank you for taking the time to stop by.

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cec December 24, 2024 at 9:13:39 AM

hey i've just read your latest post and I really love your writing style. hope things get better- I totally get what your going through. keep going, I love the blog

Replied on: December 27, 2024 at 4:49:03 AM

hi, thank you. no one's ever told me that they like my writing style before, so I was surprised to read that. thanks again for your nice words

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anon December 20, 2024 at 4:31:03 AM

hey, i found you through the bearblog discovery feed. i just want to say that you’re doing great. it sounds like life’s been tough for you and i hope things get better. please keep writing! sending hugs

Replied on: December 20, 2024 at 10:13:26 PM

hi, thank you for this. it really means a lot to me.